Does God Love You Enough to Let You Be Single?

February 7, 2016 Series: Eros Defiled

Topic: Sunday Morning Passage: 1 Corinthians 7:6–7:35

Christ has rescued you from the boogie man called "romance", and set you free to be single or married.

1. Single and Blessed – In Christ you are free!
For he who was called in the Lord as a bondservant is a freedman of the Lord. Likewise he who was free when called is a bondservant of Christ. You were bought with a price; do not become bondservants of men. So, brothers, in whatever condition each was called, there let him remain with God.
(1 Corinthians 7:22-24 ESV)
• Why are you single?
• You could not possibly be more loved
• The cost of redemption – utter abandonment

This is what I mean, brothers: the appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods, and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it. For the present form of this world is passing away. (1 Corinthians 7:29-31 ESV)


• Identity, Security, Purpose
• All have been changed in Christ
• New identity, community and goal

2. Single and Busy – Free to stay single
I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. (1 Corinthians 7:32-34 ESV)

RADICAL COMMENT – Singleness did not exist. The Apostle Paul created new category of woman, and it became so popular it had to be restricted

Being Single does not free you from love and rich commitment to relationship.

• Free to love, not selfishness

• Free to be part of redemption

3. Single and Seeking? Free to Look for a spouse
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. (1 Corinthians 7:39 ESV)

You are free to marry, and free to marry with freedom.

• The freedom of a boundary – Why only in the Lord?

Freedom within that boundary. What does that mean? You do not have to look for your ‘soul mate’. You have already found him.

• You can look without fear

• You can allow the person you date to grow

4. Single and in Love – Love with Abandon
Yet in my judgment she is happier if she remains as she is. And I think that I too have the Spirit of God.
(1 Corinthians 7:40 ESV)

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”

Make Christ your one true love, and he will set you free to be vulnerable.
He will break your heart, by showing you your true self. But he alone will never disappoint you. He will put you back together. He will never threaten to leave or reject you if you suddenly do something offensive, or stop doing something attractive.

He came for you when you were dead, broken and ugly. He will make you alive and commit to making you beautiful.

Make him your one true love. He will set you free from sin and slavery to finding an identity in the fickle, untrustworthy hearts of men and women.

Make him your one true love and he will free you to love others with an abandon that leads to richer joys, deeper sorrows, and more beautiful hope than you could ever imagine.
Make him your one true love. He alone loves your soul.

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